Any of these unity ceremony additions can be added to your exchange of vows. Designing your custom wedding means you can have it your way, in a style that is unique or holds a symbolic meaning the signifies who you are as a couple. There are many unity services, and these are only a small fraction. A ton of ideas can be found through an internet search.
Its meaning is simple and beautiful: two becoming one. Both partners mix two different colors of sand into one container, thereby symbolizing their lives and hearts entwined. Once combined, it would be extremely difficult to separate the sand out again, just as the couple are so joined together. The pouring of the sand can take place at any time before, after or during the wedding vows and ring exchange. Usually there’s a container each partner with their respective sand colors inside. A third container sits empty until, after your officiant has explained the ceremony and its meaning, one partner pours some of her/his sand into the empty container. Their partner does the same afterwards, and then the couple pour their remaining sand together so that the two colors mix. For couples with children, each child could add their own sand color to the mix to symbolize the creation of family.
A lot like the sand ceremony, this ceremony blends two colors into one. It’s advised that you begin experimenting with colors before the wedding so that the mixing gives a color you really like. Unlike with the sand ceremony, where you can get clear layers and blended layers, water really mixes together.
The wine ceremony, again, shows the merging of two into one by two wines being blended into one (possibly red wine and white wine). Then the couple drinks from the shared container. This sharing of a cup is symbolic of togetherness.
Love Letters Ceremony
Both partners write a love letter to each other. These are locked in a box with a bottle of wine and some wine glasses, ready for later in the marriage, such as a milestone anniversary. Open it up, share a drink of wine, and read the letters you wrote for each other. Here you have a reminder of why you love each other, there and ready for the future.
Unity Candle Ceremony
This is a very romantic wedding ceremony that has so many creative opportunities for you to make it unique and personal to you. In it you can include your family as well, and the lit candles in a dull room will look beautiful. Both partners have a candle, and there is a third, main one between them. This main candle is lit, perhaps by the father of the bride, (or by all of the couple’s parents) and each partner lights their own candles from this main one. Then the rest of the family can light their candles from it as well. On the flip-side, perhaps the partners could light each other’s candles, and together they light the main one (that the rest of the family lights theirs from). The merging flames will show their unity and strengthened love and shared lives. This ceremony is very flexible, so adapt it and use whichever symbolism works best for you—you don’t even need to exile yourself to unity candles simply placed on a frame or holder. Perhaps you could make this ceremony even more interesting by using lanterns or small flaming torches? The only downside to this ceremony is if a brisk wind is blowing; it may not work very well outside.
One of the most popular flower unity ceremonies is the Rose Ceremony. Roses are a traditional symbol of love and are therefore perfect to feature in a wedding ceremony. The ceremony can also feature family members the partners wish to take part. Both partners have a rose, and so does every family member they wish to take part in the ceremony. (Red roses are usually used due to their color symbolism of love, and the family members can have the same color or a different one.) Then the partners swap their roses as a first gift to each other before placing them together into a vase. Then all of the family members add their roses to the mix. Of course, you don’t have to use roses for your ceremony—use any flower that has a special meaning to you.
Tree Planting Ceremony
Planting a tree is a physical manifestation that symbolizes the growth of your relationship. Together you can see the tree grow just as your love and married life does, and you must nurture it in order to keep it alive. So, you gather two pots of dirt, possibly from a special, significant place, and plant a tree in the combined soil. Water it together with two watering cans (perhaps, again, with water from a meaningful place), or even one shared watering can. You may even consider including your guests or immediate family and friends—ask them to add their own scatters of soil or seeds. Make the ceremony even more symbolic by choosing the tree due to its meaning—look in mythology or lore or even use a cutting from a tree that’s special to you. You could even plant a tree each if you want to.
Handfasting and Tying the Knot Ceremony
Particularly known in Pagan wedding ceremonies, handfasting is the joining of the partners’ hands and wrists using vines, cord, rope, or ribbon tied into a knot. It’s often said that this is where we get the expression “tying the knot” from, and it often takes place at the end of the wedding ceremony as a final promise from one person to the other to bind their lives together. The material should probably be significant to you. And there’s nothing to stop you incorporating jewelry or chains of flowers either. Also think carefully about what kind of knot you wish to tie your hands into. Each can carry a different meaning, and so, symbolically, one may suit you and your partner better than the others. Some types of knots include Infinity Knots, Fisherman’s Knots, and Trinity Knots.
Smith, Leanne (August 23, 2017). 8 Alternative Unity Ceremony Ideas for Your Wedding. Confettit Celebrations Ltd. Retrieved from https://www.confetti.co.uk/inspiration/alternative-unity-ceremony-ideas